How to Win Friends and Influence People quotes
by Dale Carnegie
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“The moment they feel attacked, they start building a case against you.”
“People will work harder for appreciation than for criticism, because appreciation feeds the one hunger almost everyone shares: to feel important.”
“Before you speak, ask yourself: what does this person want right now?”
“The fastest way to make people like you is not to talk well.”
“People decide whether you are safe, warm, or hostile before they decide whether you are competent.”
“Forget it, and you quietly say: “You were not important enough to register.” Even if you didn’t mean that, the sting is real.”
“Most people are starved for a listener who doesn’t rush them, correct them, or turn their story into a competition.”
“You can’t hold attention with what you find fascinating if the other person can’t see themselves in it.”
“Interrupting, correcting, and one-upping are silent ways of saying, “I’m above you.” Even when unintentional, they create resistance.”
“An argument is a trap: even if you “win,” the other person loses face.”
“Even if you’re correct, the emotional result is predictable: resistance, justification, and a quiet decision that you’re unsafe.”
“The moment you fight to protect your image, the other person fights to prove you wrong—and the relationship pays the bill.”
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