The seventh principle, added in the 2021 expanded edition: we are most influenced by people we share an identity with. Not just people similar to us — people who are us in some meaningful sense. Family, tribe, region, political party, religion, profession, sports team, alma mater.
Unity is the difference between liking — we have things in common — and identity — we are the same kind. When someone speaks as a fellow member of a category you belong to, your evaluation of their message starts from inside the group's perspective rather than outside it. This is why from-one-parent-to-another works, why as-a-fellow-engineer works, why brands work so hard to feel like clubs.
The principle is the most powerful in the book because it bypasses argument. The defense is to ask whether the speaker is actually one of you or borrowing the label. The application — when honest — is to speak from the identity you actually share, and not invoke ones you don't.
Used cynically, unity is tribal manipulation. Used honestly, it's recognizing that people you genuinely share something with deserve a closer hearing.
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